Managing a home by oneself can be overwhelming. As a chaplain, I hear from many spouses who face this challenge regularly. Being married to someone serving in the Army guarantees time apart. Trying to work, pay bills, clean a house, get the oil changed, fix the washing machine, shovel snow and care for children can literally be the activities of one day. Do this for six or nine or even 12 months and you have an Army Family.

In the Gospel of Luke there is a Bible story about two sisters and a very stressful moment.

Luke 10:38-42 reads, “As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord’s feet, listening to what he taught. But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, ‘Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.’ But the Lord said to her, ‘My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details. There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.’”

Many of you are exhausted from doing all the work. You know what you are doing is important and essential.

Martha knew that everyone needed to eat dinner. She wanted some help. She was frustrated with her sister’s lack of support. Martha was sincerely worried about this meal. Mary, however, was consumed in the moment. Jesus told Martha that her sister was focused on the most important thing at that precise time.

We cannot change our circumstances at times. We have to press on in whatever life brings our way. However, focusing on the right thing provides us with a different perspective. The stress is not removed, but how we manage that stress is transformed.

Do not give up today. Do not lose hope. Keep fighting the fight. Run the race to the end even if you are limping. Scream or weep if you have to vent. However, allow your perspective to be transformed by looking to the one who can redeem any situation or anyone.