When I stopped to think about the anonymous quotation “temper is such a valuable thing, it is a shame to lose it,” I realized that it really rings true.  

Why is it so easy to lose your temper?  

What leads us down the road to anger and frustration?

What happens if we keep our temper in check?

King Solomon was a wise man who once said, “a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

King Solomon makes a great point here. When you lose your temper, it can lead to anger and wrath.

Yet when you keep control of your tongue and stay cool, calm and collected, you experience peace.

I would love to say that I have regularly followed this old wise King’s advice, but unfortunately, I have not always heeded his warning.

There have been many times in life that I have been put in a situation that made me angry. The reality is, we all have.

Maybe your kids are being disobedient. Perhaps the neighbor’s dog keeps you up at night from its incessant barking. Your boss does not give you a proper opportunity to show your skills. Maybe your relationship with your spouse is on the rocks. Or perhaps you just experienced a tragedy in your life.  

No matter where you are or what you are going through, you will have times when anger rears its ugly head.  

Anger is an emotion. And experiencing anger is perfectly normal and OK. What we do with anger once it arrives is what defines the moments that follow.

Keeping your temper in check is not easy, but it sure is beneficial.  

When you keep cool and stay calm, you are able to process the situation with better clarity. You are able to keep the peace around. You are not causing more damage to the situation.

While there are countless resources on the topic of taking control of your anger, I believe the following steps work very well:

1. Disengage from the situation.

2. Breathe deeply and gain control of yourself.

3. Re-examine the situation.

4. Define and solve the problem.  

While everyone gets angry and loses their temper at some point, it is important to know that keeping your attitude in check will work out better for not only yourself, but also those around you.

Your temper is valuable, just don’t lose it.