“But daddy, why can’t we FaceTime Mimi, sing songs, do our Bible verses and read our story before bed?” my daughter asked very confused.  

“Because, sweetie, we only have enough time to do two of those things,” I replied.  

My daughter, like all of us, has to learn if we say yes to something we are also saying no to others.   

As we approach the 2018 holiday season, we need this understanding coupled with the unity and freedom it brings.

Much to our dismay we are finite creatures who live and move in a finite existence. We cannot possibly do everything we want; sufficient time, space and resources do not exist.  

When I said, “I do” (read yes) to my wife, I said “no” to all other women. When I said “yes” to the Army, I said “no” to other career paths. This seems constricting, leaving us in perpetual indecision to keep our options open. However, I believe there is a better way.

It reminds me of a story of Jesus.  

“Jesus,” you may say, “This is the 21st century, why are we still talking about Jesus?”  

Stick with me, in this story there is gold.

Jesus is in a town and he is not accepted. He is actually thrown out, booed off stage. So Jesus goes to another town and is killing it there – he is healing people and people are hanging on every word. They are begging Jesus to stay.  

What does Jesus say?   

“I must proclaim the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns also, because that is why I was sent.”  

Essentially, Jesus said “no” to them and “yes” to something else. Like us, Jesus was limited by space and time, but he made the decision anyway.

This holiday season, as more options come your way than you could possibly accomplish, ask yourself two questions: Are you doing the things in life you believe you should be doing? What sort of a vision do you have for life in your future?

Say “yes” to the things and people you love. This is the antidote for fear and anxiety. This will free you up to draw close to the things and people who are important.