There is one thing that we have no control over and that is constant change.
Perfect examples are when times change, seasons change, situations change and our children change to become adults.
Every individual and Family will have a unique situation to address when change takes place.
Some of you are returning from deployments to spouses, children or parents.
Some of you learned new skills to cope with everyday life while your loved ones were absent.
Some of you changed your duty stations and are trying to adjust to new ways of life.
Often, these changes require special attentions from you and those around you.
Below are some strategies to ease this period of transition, regardless of your personal circumstances:
•You must communicate. The key to making the transition a healthy one is to discuss everything openly. Communicating openly is not easy for most people, but it is vital that everyone make an honest effort to talk about and listen to each other’s experiences while avoiding the “I had it worse” syndrome.
•You must approach each other as equals. At home or at work, avoid expressing “I am home and I will take charge” or “I am not budging” attitudes. The fact that everybody managed to cope during transitions does not mean that everybody enjoyed it. Focus on the fact that now you can do something for each other and things together.
•You must find out what everyone has learned. Make a point to learn how everyone, including children, has grown during transitions or separations and use it as the starting point for new personal or professional relationships.
•You must stay positive. Keep criticism to a minimum. If it cannot be avoided, keep it constructive. Even if you do not agree with decisions that were made during your absence, remember that you probably do not know all of the circumstances, and that these decisions may have been made under a great deal of stress.
•You must remember that old problems have not gone away. If you were having difficulties with people or situations at home or at work before, it is not likely that you being elsewhere will solved them. However, transitions can give you a chance to look at things from a new perspective. The growth that you and those around you experienced may better equip you emotionally and psychologically to face old problems.
•Remember to pray. If at all possible pray together with your loved ones to foster courage and unity to face challenges as one team.
Psalm 62:8 – “Trust in God at all times; tell him all your troubles, for he is our refuge.